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Dont Believe the Hype


It’s so hard not to get caught up in social media. We have become masters of the facade. It seems everywhere you look, someone is professing love for their new partner, headed for an exotic locations, and everything and everyone seems so perfect.

We have gained the skill and aspect on making our lives and relationship looks perfect, especially for the ‘gram.

I recall years ago when Eva Marcelle posted a family photo of her, her daughter and her then boyfriend, Kevin McCall. This photo was immediately liked and loved and was to be envied for the showcase a happy beautiful black family. Life was good, so it seemed.

A day later, and I mean, literally the next day, Eva filled a restraining order against Kevin. She went on to report that abuse, toxicity and dysfunction had been the absolute norm on their relationship. Just think about, in this mist of all her horrible situation, the facade of ‘happy family’ was presented, when it was everything but. Eva has since cut ties with Kevin and is now married to an Atlanta politician, and recently had a son.

This is a commonplace in the age of social media, that we’d share the best and perfect moments of our lives, even when it’s everything but.

And it’s not just celebraties. It’s our family, coworkers, friends, and associates.

I know a few dudes that are always posting snaps and videos of them with their kids. The likes and admiration pore in as they showcase #daddyduties. It looks all good, but in reality, these guys don’t feed, bathe or change their kids. One moment they are posing for likes, and that is the true extent of the duties they perform. Parenting is hard, but they make it look rather fun in the twenty seconds videos.

Let’s not forget the the infamous proposal videos. They looks so happy and it seems all good... but how many of them ever make it down the aisle? How many of them flash the ring more than they flash their partner? How many people are only worried about ‘saving face’ for social media and doing what’s best for the them.

It happens much more than you know.

It could all be chucked up the age of techcnicolgy and internet. But honestly, this is really all about YOU. It’s your sole responsibility to ensure that your are living your best life. And you will never, ever (hear me now) live you best life, comparing yours to someone else’s or trying to keep up an image that is not your truth. Your journey will never match another’s. And you life is meant to be just that, yours. Don’t lose yourself trying to be something you are not. Find your passion, live your purpose and fall into your blis

It’s so hard not to get caught up in social media. We have become masters of the facade. It seems everywhere you look, someone is professing love for their new partner, headed for an exotic locations, and everything and everyone seems so perfect.

We have gained the skill and aspect on making our lives and relationship looks perfect, especially for the ‘gram.

I recall years ago when Eva Marcelle posted a family photo of her, her daughter and her then boyfriend, Kevin McCall. This photo was immediately liked and loved and was to be envied for the showcase a happy beautiful black family. Life was good, so it seemed.

A day later, and I mean, literally the next day, Eva filled a restraining order against Kevin. She went on to report that abuse, toxicity and dysfunction had been the absolute norm on their relationship. Just think about, in this mist of all her horrible situation, the facade of ‘happy family’ was presented, when it was everything but. Eva has since cut ties with Kevin and is now married to an Atlanta politician, and recently had a son.

This is a commonplace in the age of social media, that we’d share the best and perfect moments of our lives, even when it’s everything but.

And it’s not just celebraties. It’s our family, coworkers, friends, and associates.

I know a few dudes that are always posting snaps and videos of them with their kids. The likes and admiration pore in as they showcase #daddydutues. It looks all good, but in reality, these guys don’t feed, bathe or change their kids. One moment they are posing for likes, and that is the true extent of the duties they perform. Parenting is hard, but they make it look rather fun in the twenty seconds videos.

Let’s not forget the the infamous proposal videos. They looks so happy and it seems all good... but how many of them ever make it down the aisle? How many of them flash the ring more than they flash their partner? How many people are only worried about ‘saving face’ for social media and doing what’s best for the them.

It happens much more than you know.

It could all be chucked up the age of techcnicolgy and internet. But honestly, this is really all about YOU. It’s your sole responsibility to ensure that your are living your best life. And you will never, ever (hear me now) live you best life, comparing yours to someone else’s or trying to keep up an image that is not your truth. Your journey will never match another’s. And you life is meant to be just that, yours. Don’t lose yourself trying to be something you are not. Find your passion, live your purpose and fall into your bliss.

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